There can be a certain smugness when we feel we have prepared for something. We have a plan and that makes us feel safe and secure, because we are in control now.
This of course, is a false sense of control, because it does not matter how much we prepare, we cannot predict the future, or the outcome, so despite all our preparation, we still don’t know how things will work out.
We all want everything mapped out, orderly, our world laid out before us as we think it should be, or how we want it to be.
As Jeannette Walls wrote in ‘Half Broke Horses’, “You can’t prepare for everything life’s going to throw at you. And you can’t avoid danger. It’s there. The world is a dangerous place …..”
Sometimes things happen so fast, are so unexpected, or so far outside of our life experience, that we have no chance of predicting they would happen and no time to prepare.
When life delivers you a sudden unexpected impact, there is often no time to brace yourself. It just hits you out of nowhere and the life you knew is over, gone forever.
And that’s the moment, to quote Robin Wasserman, “You don’t even realize you’re living in a before until you wake up one day and find yourself in an after.”