Extreme anger – not just normal anger, some may prefer to call it rage – that’s the hardest emotion to contain.
I don’t sweat the small stuff .. you know the long line at supermarket check-out, bad drivers or being stuck in traffic. They are just life’s little hiccups.
Extreme anger only happens when something is really BIG, close up, very personal and extremely threatening. It’s the thing that takes you in one side of ordinary anger and right out the other.
It’s when you scare people.
It’s when you scare yourself.
It’s when you can’t calm down even if you wanted to.
It’s when all those well-meaning bits of advice like, take a walk, take a deep breath, count to 50 mean nothing at all.
It’s perfectly healthy and normal to feel angry when you’ve been mistreated or wronged. Anger is a normal reaction to loss, threat or being traumatized.
What we need to decide is, if indulging in mega-anger is worth it.
So if what has happened to make you feel this way is: very important in the grand scheme of things; really worth getting angry about; anger is an appropriate response to the situation; and worth ruining the rest of your day for, because frankly not only is your day already ruined, but the next day, week, month and year are looking like they are in the trash can too, then I say go for it and let whoever is responsible have it!
But aim carefully at the correct target, because as Aristotle said, “Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.”
Daily Prompt: Unsafe Containers. Which emotion(s) — joy, envy, rage, pity, or something else — do you find to be the hardest to contain?