Speak Only of Beautiful Things

dayanhadassah:

A soulful poem by E.

Originally posted on A Sign Of Life:

Speak only of beautiful things —
of flowers and hearts and shiny rings.

Do not speak of the clouds in your sky.
Do not mention the pain in your cry.

Silence the desire to scream
as you’re torn apart at the seam.

Hush, quell the internal panic.
Force a bright smile — don’t look mechanic.

Struggle to find the colors in the gray.
Try your best not to fade away.

Do not tell of your darkest dreams.
Speak only of beautiful things.

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I’m working on a painting that inspired this — but my skills with words are much better than my skills with a paintbrush.

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(un)locked

dayanhadassah:

This poetry post ‘(un)locked’ by Blogger alfageeek has wonderful imagery. It just seeps with frustration and determination.

locked door

Originally posted on alfageeek:

He stood knocking at the door
It was locked
He knew she was inside
He could sense her in there

He tried to pick the lock
He tried to break the door down
The door was open before
He remembered when the door was open

He tried to learn his way in
He studied lock picking
He studied carpentry
He studied architecture

He pleaded with her to open the door
He reasoned with her
He wrote her letters, and slipped them under
She wrote letters back, denying the door was even there

For years, he banged on the door
He banged until his knuckles bled
He scratched at the door until his fingernails were gone
He collapsed at the door and wept

And as he sat there, weeping, he saw it
He saw a key
It was hidden very well
Almost impossible to find

He picked up the key
Terrified that it might…

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Happy Groundhog Day

6 am alarm clock

The Daily Prompt asked: “If you could relive the past week, would you? Would you change anything?”

Yep – and not just this week, this month, last month, the whole past year. I would change it all.

There are of course varying degrees of Groundhog Day. The ultimate ‘Groundhog Day’ was the movie with Bill Murray playing weatherman Phil Connors who wakes up at 6 am and it’s always the second of February, in the same place, doing the same thing every single day, feeling trapped and frustrated and unable break free.

“I wake up every day, right here, right in Punxsutawney, and it’s always February 2nd. And there’s nothing I can do about it.”

Phil Connors

He asks: “What would you do if you were stuck in one place and every day was exactly the same, and nothing that you did mattered?” Good question.

He even tries suicide and when unsuccessful laments, “I killed myself so many times I don’t even exist anymore”.

Eventually Phil works out that truth of the well-known saying, ‘Insanity is doing the same thing over and over but expecting different results’.

When you realise, this is as good as it gets. That it does not get better. That it is not getting better. That’s when you finally can’t cope with Groundhog Day anymore.

That’s when Phil’s words, “What if there is no tomorrow? There wasn’t one today”, start ringing in your head.

That’s when you really hear Phil’s chilling prediction: “I’ll give you a winter prediction: It’s gonna be cold, it’s gonna be gray, and it’s gonna last you for the rest of your life.”

In the end, he wasn’t doomed to repeat the day forever, but that was not the real world, it was a movie with a happy ever after ending.

 

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Kintsukuroi – Micropoetry

dayanhadassah:

I found this quite beautiful.

Originally posted on A Fullness in Brevity - Adam Byatt:

In my brokenness
I am made beautiful
You collected
the broken pieces
Sealed fleshly wounds
With golden scars
I wear as triumph

This poem was inspired by the Japanese art form of kintsukuroi

Kintsukuroi

I see creativity as an act of creation and as an act of repair. Sometimes it is in the act of creating that a person finds wholeness by putting their emotional and mental trauma and experiences into a work of art. It may be a difficult and draining but it can also be a catharsis, a release, a giving away of the issues and experiences held onto like removing a splinter from under the skin.

Sometimes we need to understand we are broken so we can be repaired and made beautiful again. Creativity is the medium through which it can happen.

What can you make beautiful again?

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Punishment and forgiveness

punish forgive arrows

It’s easier for people to forgive someone for doing wrong against them if some form of punishment is involved, according to psychology researchers at the University of Adelaide.

Dr Peter Strelan, at the university’s School of Psychology, has been studying forgiveness in a bid to better understand how people can resolve personal conflict. As well as providing a better understanding of human behaviour and emotions, his research could help to inform clinical psychologists and relationship counsellors.

In a range of different scenarios involving someone who has done wrong: a negligent friend; a criminal offender; and a troubled personal relationship, Dr Strelan and colleagues found that people were more willing to forgive if those who had offended against them had been punished in some way.

Punishment plays important role in forgiveness

He said, “Justice and forgiveness are often considered to be opposites, but we’ve found that victims who punish their offender are more able to forgive and move on.

“Punishment could take many different forms. It could be giving someone the silent treatment, which in itself is a very powerful psychological punishment. Or in the case of a criminal offender, knowing that a court of law has imposed a reasonable sentence and that justice is being done – that may be enough for some people to forgive.

“That sense of justice, or getting ‘just deserts’, is important. However, in interpersonal relationships punishment should not be extreme or vengeful,  if it were, this would not help to repair the damage in the relationship and is likely to make things worse.

“For forgiveness to really work, there must be a sense that negative responses towards a transgressor are being replaced with positive ones. It’s not about retaliation, it’s about responding constructively and doing something about people’s poor behaviour towards you, in a way that works for both parties involved in the conflict.”

Dr Strelan said many people have a difficult time forgiving those who have done them wrong.

He said, “When you get hurt by someone you naturally feel vulnerable, and the very idea of forgiving someone also makes a victim feel vulnerable. When some form of punishment is involved, the victim feels more empowered by that and is more able to forgive.”

 

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